Cutline: Mark Henick speaks with Holland College students during a
presentation on Feb. 28. Henick grew up in Cape Breton, but now lives and works
in Toronto.
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By Daniel Brown
March 15, 2017
Mark Henick had
made multiple suicide attempts, the first when he was 12 years old.
But this time, things would
be different.
It was the middle of the
night. Henick climbed over the edge of an overpass in Cape Breton, making sure
not to trip.
In the distance
he saw the abandoned steel plant. He looked down and saw a fence.
He calculated how
far he’d have to jump so not to land on the fence. He didn’t want this to be
painful.
He hung from the
railing, so all he’d have to do is let go.
“You don’t look
like you’re doing so good there,” said a voice from behind.
Henick looked
behind him. He saw a man wearing a brown corduroy jacket, and a car parked in
the middle of the overpass.
The man began
chatting with Henick, asking about his life and his passions. The two talked
for a while, and Henick saw police lights coming toward them.
Soon, a crowd
formed. A group of high school boys stood behind a police barricade. One of
them yelled out.
“Jump, you
coward.”
It was the push
Henick needed. He let go of the railing.
James Reddin has heard many
stories like this one.
The UPEI
counsellor meets with people dealing with mental health problems regularly.
It’s hard to say how far things have come in regard to mental health awareness,
Reddin said.
“It’s one of those
things that doesn’t have one right answer.”
People who
consider or attempt suicide tend to feel like they’re not normal. They believe
they’re supposed to be feeling a certain way, or not feeling a certain way.
It’s hard to find a clear
solution to this shame – and to mental health stigma – when people all have
different life experiences, Reddin said.
“People will be
sad, people will be angry,” Reddin said. “We seem to attach judgment to
emotion.”
Reddin thinks Canada could do a
better job at serving mental health in both rural and urban areas. Rural areas
may have a better sense of community, but urban areas have more options, he
said.
Henick’s rural hometown didn’t have any
options for mental health support.
After letting go, he didn’t feel
anything. He looked down and saw an arm wrapped around his waist.
The arm was wearing a brown corduroy
jacket.
He was lifted over the railing and
put into an ambulance. He was sent to the hospitals psychiatric ward, which he
was familiar with by this point.
Henick thought a lot of the two
strangers on the overpass.
He decided he didn’t want to be like the
boy who yelled from the sidelines. He wanted to be like the man who talked with
him, whose name he never got.
Someone who is dealing with mental
health problems wants the opportunity to talk. The best thing to do if you
think someone is considering suicide is to bluntly ask them, Reddin said.
“People are surprisingly honest.”
Someone who’s having suicidal
thoughts may not trust themselves, so it’s important to make a plan and help
them seek professional help. This may mean admitting them to a hospital, Reddin
said.
Becoming trained to respond to those
dealing with mental health problems is also a good idea, Reddin said.
“All of our mental health would do a
lot better if we thought of it as health,” Reddin said. “[Not] this outside
thing that’s less significant.”
For Henick, mental health awareness
became his new passion.
Once he was let out of the hospital,
he approached his school principal to discuss giving a presentation to the
school.
“I want to talk about suicide.”
The principle responded quickly.
“No, no, no, no.”
Soon after, Henick wrote a letter to
the editor, relating his high school to communist Russia. The next day, there
were news crews at the school.
Henick continued with his advocacy.
In 2013, he gave a TED Talk that today has over three million views.
More than a decade after his last suicide
attempt, he found the man in the brown corduroy jacket. His name is Mike, and
after this incident he also starting working in mental health.
“You might not know that you’re that
person who can help others, but I guarantee that you are,” Henick said.